Friday, March 28, 2014

Him Vs. Him....



                    Well not to panic as am not comparing my husband with my friend’s husband or a neighbor’s.  Yes I would find complete satisfaction while performing such an act as all women are born to feel glorious victory in doing so. Comparison runs in our veins; if furniture has to be beautiful then it has to be better compared to something we saw in somebody’s house or else it gets rejected instantly. Forget about the furniture; in arranged marriages girls define smartness taking her friend’s handsome looking husband in to consideration. So yes it is proved no matter how much we hate it or love it we just can’t stop our brain from subconsciously comparing stuffs. Sometimes it turns out to be bliss when our I-don’t-care-about-money husband spends lavishly on shopping without evening comparing prices across stores. They may call this as tedious but we say saving money for personal shopping! So when comparison is embracing our entire system like Facebook on youth, I found it irresistible to compare one ex chap with the new chap.  Well we had named the ex-chap as puttu and hence, I knew I had to name the new chap as tuppu since I call him the reverse breed.  Though they are local cats with made in India stamp on it (I have seen how girls drool over Persian cats) I have always had a special regard for both. Tuppu is only two months old and as he is growing up exhibiting various shades or I say true colours -which were hardly noticed in the initial days as he was so tiny, timid and terror stricken hissing like a snake at our very attempt to touch- I have realized how different he is from Puttu. 


                 Physically, they both share different colours, which was the main reason we chose Tuppu in the first place to avoid being reminded of Puttu who had died out of small intestine infection. I seriously, till today wonder how my little charming Puttu had got an infection which was lethal and we never even got a hint of it until his final days. It still makes me sad thinking about it. Puttu had a smaller built compared to most of the male cats with orange colour patches scattered here and there as if god had hastily whirled the paint brush around him. God never wanted to show his poor painting skills so he took his time and patience to beautifully paint Tuppu making his ears and head grey and even his tail, rest of the body part as white as milk with large ears like Dobby, the elf from Harry Potter series.

Don't I look cute??? Puttu here...


I own this chair!!! Tuppu here...



                When Puttu first arrived in our house he was overly friendly jumping around, drinking milk happily making bonds with everyone as he knew he was here to stay where as Tuppu did quite the opposite as he was a rebellion. The moment we had got Tuppu home, he instantly made his mind about not staying in this house and jumped out the car and ran away, just a month old kitten. When all our attempts went in vain, especially after dad getting bitten by him we decided to leave him outside the house only to find him inside the bonnet of our car next morning (God knows how he crawled up inside the bonnet). His wails did not let us sleep for a week and when we saw him going on a hunger strike we thought of dropping him back to his mother. However, somehow after wooing him for few days, finally Tuppu gave his approval on staying in our house.


This is where I sleep!!!


                          
Am happy on the Cushions!!
 
                          Puttu detested food even if it was in front of him. He entered the kitchen right on eating time whereas Tuppu can eat anytime and anywhere. He is always so hungry that I gape at his eating capabilities with amusement. If food is left uncovered then there is a warning by Tuppu not to eat it anymore whereas Puttu behaved with decorum and never desired for anything that did not belong him. Puttu not only detested food but also people. Though he had politically made a stable home for himself on his day of arrival he had never made any attempt to get along (like a politician, who doesn’t even see our face after election, after his work is done, after he is no longer insecure). He sat or slept at least 3 feet away from people. He needed us to serve him food from time to time (food meant only hotel made fried fish) after which he behaved as though he never met us. Whereas Tuppu has become friendly, social and he makes his presence felt wherever we are. He pulls our leg, bites it, plays with us, sleeps with us, and eats when we eat, whatever we eat and poses for the camera, icing on the cake. We always wanted to touch, cuddle Puttu but he never allowed us and Tuppu always wants to be touched and cuddled and honestly, we all love it. Let it be wagging his tail like a tiger or swirling around his tail to catch it, we just like the slightest glimpse of him. 

                        But the best part is Puttu’s enemy cat is Tuppu’s best friend. We detested that fat ugly dark orange coloured cat but now he is welcomed home anytime as a friend. We always taught Tuppu to take revenge with the enemies of Puttu (he was extremely weak in fighting his enemies) but looks like Tuppu believes in harmony. Looks like Tuppu is also the smart one; when he is in danger he immediately runs inside the house where people are there and hides, whereas the dumbstruck Puttu ran out in the open finally getting bitten by other cats and dogs. We tried to condition him to run inside the house in danger not outside but sadly, till his last days he never mastered the art of self-defense. 

Plastic rack is my new home!!!
Well, flower pot is my new home!!!

                          But at the end of the day definitely there is one similarity between Puttu and Tuppu, they love us. Puttu might not be with us today but his memories still bring a smile on our face. The way how he showed off, gave us royal looks and most importantly, his time sense. Sharp at 1pm he would come home from wherever for lunch and bite to wake my dad (only dad, maybe he never thought I was capable of feeding him) up to serve him. Tuppu, still the tiny but not timid and terror stricken, gives us a jolly ride with his jumping skills, two leg doggy walk and sharp eye contact winking (if he was a man I would have fallen in love with him just by the way he winks at me). After a tiring day, after a fighting day, after a I-am-not-in-a-good-mood day or even after why-bad-things-happen-to-me day, when I look at Tuppu (previously Puttu) my heart fills with unspoken joy that my eye lashes flutter to control tears of happiness. May be that’s why we call them ‘PET’ as they caress our soul with unspeakable, unconditional, unrealistic kind of love which we, being the most intelligent of species are never capable of. 


LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!

Sunday, March 23, 2014

I NEED A SANTA!!!!


       People often tagged me as an impatient person and to their satisfaction I find no harm in agreeing to their credence. Yes I am impatient, so what is wrong with it? My mom has been pestering me in the past about this reminding how I am a girl. Thanks mom as if I didn’t know I was a girl!!! As a pampered kid that I was I regularly demanded for things may be chocolates or a Barbie doll dress and to my rescue, my father being a great dad never smashed this teeny tiny heart of mine.  But that wasn’t sufficient for me as all my requests ended with a phrase of “RIGHT NOW” and poor dad unable to bear my tantrums would leave all his chores and run to a store to get me what I wanted as if the world would end if not otherwise. As I grew up he had realized that feeding my RIGHT NOW attitude was absolutely wrong and he laid out a meek NO.  Now at this age I presumed, as people call me, I am an impatient person and to my horror by the time I realized this I have already crossed the boundaries of impatience reaching a new realm of desperation. It’s just not “I want it now” but it is “I desperately want it right now or else I will shove your head inside your mouth”.  This is the exact kind of desperation which you may all have experienced at some point in life. May be waiting for your exam results (especially when you for sure know either you have topped it or screwed it, no better), or waiting for a girl’s response after you have uttered those three magical words in haste (oh damn! What if she really says yes???), or sometimes even waiting for that lovely biriyani cooked by your mother asking endlessly, how long you are going to take, is it ready yet, mom I am hungry and finally just give the food right away ok. So it is not new to us, definitely! But nobody feels like breaking somebody’s head if the cooker takes too long to whistle, if the desired movie doesn’t show up in the nearby theater during the release week, looking at the watch hundred times before one hour lecture gets over (may be most of us do that!!!), taking bath in two minutes (heights of impatience is what I call) the list goes on and yes I am referring to myself here. I was heartbroken when one of my ex-colleagues told me, “I pity you are a girl. Do you even realize that you will have to wait for nine months to have a child? It doesn’t pop out right after you conceive”. I wasn’t heartbroken to hear such a comment from a guy but the sudden realization of waiting for nine months made me feel suffocated. For a second I heartedly wished if actually the baby could pop out right after conception. 
             What happens when a person like me gets married to a person who needs time for everything, who iterates like a parrot “let’s do it tomorrow?” “Let’s go there next weekend?” “How about we wait for three more days before buying it?” “Next month shall we take a trip?”. I was mildly heartbroken when I first fell in love with this chap knowing I would have to forcefully control all my agitated hormones all by myself without any reinforcement but to my surprise, my heart let out a deep sigh when the marriage dates got postponed week after week, month after month and my this poor little heart was crumbled not out of delaying marriage but solely because of waiting as impatience was hovering over my body, soul and mind. After all the ups and downs, finally winning all the battles, at last getting married, at last falling back in my normal pace I realize that god can never stay happy with me being impatient (May be he has sworn to teach me patience before I get pregnant). Not dad, not friends, not even my husband but the whole damn country and this stupid government is making me wait now. As a person, I couldn’t even wait for two seconds but now it’s been seven months since I have been DESPERATELY waiting to reach a deserted land of “Saudi Arabia”. Am I excited about shifting my base there leaving my country? Yeah, I can hear my mind say this. Right now, more than excitement it is desperation which is making me look at Saudi Arabia as the United States of America or that one cherry in a bad tasting ice cream (yup ice creams can also taste bad especially when you don't like them in the first place). No matter how many times I wail in utter desperation the speed of visa processing is still taking the path of a city bus, taking stop at every possible corner. I do not much believe in god and his magic but this time I have even bribed him to speed up the process, no luck yet and to add on, my mom says “astrologer finds no airplane flying over your kundli abroad. Hence, chances are very few of you leaving this country”; sometimes mom can speak only nonsense (most of the times, I mean).              
          After seven months of long wait, umpteen number of fights with husband, cursing all the government officials, repenting the decision of shifting to Sauai Arabia, cooking all sorts of food, reading n number of novels, taking many trips, shopping extensively (I used to hate shopping, look what I have become) and finally deciding to start filling up the empty spaces in my blog may be I am slowly learning to be patient. When recently once again my husband told me it would take another two months, I simply laughed. I don’t know if it was indeed funny or I am losing my mind out of counting seconds. But I have become pretty sure it would take another two months and so, I would complete my nine months of waiting before stepping outside this country (I wish I could tell my ex colleague I can wait for nine months). So when I thought of penning down this I was exhausted thinking about the title but now I can genuinely say I really need a Santa not to speed up the visa processing but to make me more patient so that I can cope up with any situations in life.

 See yaaa!!!